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Stop trying to make a marriage work with a gay man – Bisi Alimi tells women


Bisi Alimi, a Nigerian gay rights activist is back with an advice for Nigerian women who are married to men who love men.

Sharing a screenshot of an account of a lady who was once married to a gay man, Bisi Alimi told Nigerian women that there is nothing once can do to stop a man who loves men from keeping up with such life.

He wrote:

“Stop press!
Dear women, I have said t before and I will say it again, if the man you are with loves men, pack your bag and move on. There is nothing you can do to stop a man who loves men from loving men. Staying around will make you sad and make your life hell.
This is a special message to Nigerian women, stop trying to make a marriage work with a gay man, no matter what he promised you, he will always go looking for the companionship of a man, and that’s the reality. Same goes for men who are married to women who love women.”

Bisi Alimi had before now, disclosed that he has no pity for straight women who get married to gay men.

According to him, as long as they keep supporting homophobia and patriarchy, they will keep marrying gay men.

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“You either speak up against the atrocities, or keep being the victim,” he added to further drive his point home.

This was in response to the viral story of a woman who got married to a gay man, without knowing he loves men. Relating her experience, she wrote:

The weeks before my wedding were filled with all sorts of skin treatments, consumption of aphrodisiacs and vaginal steaming all in anticipation of the big night. I looked forward to consummating our love on that special night.

On that special night, when all the glitz and glam of the wedding was done, it was just the two of us. I was so nervous and excited but Hamisu did not look interested. We talked for a while and then he fell asleep.Yes! My husband fell asleep on our first night. I did not know what do, whether to wake him up or to allow him sleep. I couldn’t hold myself I had to wake him up.

‘Honey, I don’t think we should be sleeping tonight. It is our first night, it is the Sunnah.. He cut me off with a kiss and we made out for a while; then he told me he couldn’t do anything that night because he was so tired from the activities of the wedding. Fair enough… so we slept off.

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Two weeks later we were still sleeping together…that is we were only sleeping. At this point I became fed up. No matter how hard I tried to get him in the mood my husband did not seem interested in making me a woman. He would rather go to sleep.

Three months after my wedding and I was still a virgin. My husband was not interested in that part of our marriage though he was a wonderful husband in other areas. He was very supportive of my career, he took care of me, he cooked and cleaned up after himself, he made me laugh, he was affectionate but that was the end of it… after a while I gave up trying.

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  1. Shivani Gupta

    31/07/2018 at 1:06 pm

    thank’s for sharing your experiences

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Nollywood Actor, Chinedu Ikedieze Dribbles Wole Arole On Football Pitch (Photo)


Chinedu Ikedieze of the Aki and Pawpaw fame was spotted on the football pitch taken on social media star and comedian, Woli Arole.

An hilarious photo as been going round the internet as popular actor Chinedu Ikedieze, known as Aki dribbles Instagram comedian, Wole Arole on a football pitch.

Wole Arole wrote: “Did I tell you that am also one of the best midfielders in Nigeria. But wait oooo, did Aki dribble me? @chineduikedieze”

Woli Arole remains one of the brightest talents from the ancient city of brown roofs, Ibadan.

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Ini Edo, Toke Makinwa, Others Did Butt Enlargements – Pretty Mike Blows Whistle


Controversial businessman and socialite, Pretty Mike is shaking tables and many Lagos celebrities appear to be on it.

Lagos socialite, Pretty Mike has listed the names of celebrities in Nigeria who have allegedly done plastic surgery. He also made it known that plastic surgery and body enhancement is fast becoming a trend in Lagos as centres where such is done keep springing up.

Taking to social media, Pretty Mike mentioned Tonto Dikeh, Toke Makinwa, Ini Edo, Princess of the Big Brother Naija fame, Onyii Alex and many others as he promised to release a full list in his next post on the topic of plastic surgery.

He wrote:

“We also have Centres in Lagos where they do these surgeries,the most common which is grandville medlaser in VGC,he became more popular when he did the free surgery for ladies who had over 11k followers and didnt mind posting their procedures showing their faces,likes of #sandraiwok #suzilicious jumped on it,my bird told me she even did hers twice.

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Then we have Dr Femi of the lekkihillplasticsurgery who I heard broke out from grandville medlaser, mehn have you seen the way he moulds asses and his lollipop cut for breast augmentation then down to Victoria Island have Kleinburgmedspa,they are also very good and I think they’re the only ones have seen done hips unlike the rest who just gives everyone the Apple butt shape,but what do I know clients preference I guess this Bbl is now so common with 20k-35k consultation fee and between 800k-2Million you can get a banging body in Lagos,just get ready not to sit for at least 3weeks (you don’t want the fat pumped in getting bleeped up).we have the likes of #berbiedoll who hyped her procedure on her snap #kunmi123 #Ronke who have worked on their bodies,our celebs are not even left out:;tonto dike,ini edo,Onyi Alex,princess bbn,Toke makinwa…..it’s very hard to know the real from fake now as Lagos has been littered with big bum bums and I can strongly say, I’m a big fan and I love the movement.

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To be continued In my next part 2 post…we are going to dig out__1.all the names of people u think have gone under the knife, 2.Why Married women are under pressure to go under the knife 3.Why it is the most requested gift from ladies 4.Why most ladies are badly saving up for Lipo 5.”

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I’ll Publicly Declare My Assets If Elected, I Support State Police – Singer, Banky W


Regarded as the King of R&B music in Nigeria, multi-talented singer, Banky W has reiterated his determination to represent his constituency as a federal lawmaker.

While speaking in an exclusive interview with PREMIUM TIMES on Monday, a Federal House of Representatives candidate from Eti-osa in Lagos state, Olubankole Wellington, popularly known as Banky W, pledged to support the establishment of state police if elected.

The Wedding Party actor who disclosed that he was willing to publicly delcare his assets if elected as a lawmaker to represent Eti-Osa constituency, said his destiny is to stay in Nigeria and make his community and the country better.

Banky added that he decided not to leave the country, at a time many Nigerians are running away to seek greener pastures because he believes he is meant to empower the young people around him.

He said; “For me, it is about destiny and impact. I have lived outside of the country for a little over half of my life and I have had those opportunities and they are still there for me if I wanted to take them but I feel like my destiny is here.

“I feel like I have been given the success, the platform, the following and the relevance that I have because I am meant to use it for a greater good. I am meant to use it to impact my generation. I am meant to use it to empower the young people around me. I am meant to use it to make my community and my country better.

“So, if I run away because life is easier elsewhere, that will be running away from my problems and I am intent on impacting my generation and fulfilling my purpose, that is why I am here,” he said.

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Speaking further, Bank W said that he is not intimidated by the ruling party and other mega parties, adding that he has new ideas to bring to the table and the community is ready for new ideas.

“The community is ready for people with vision and the intellectual capacity and for fresh faces on the scene that generally have good intentions for the country.

“For us now, it is about going door-to-door, community-to-community in Eti-Osa and letting them know that they do have a separate option, an alternative that is willing to try to do things differently and hopefully, to do things better.

“At the end of the day, if it’s the will of God and the will of the community, then we willl win but if it is not, then we are okay with that because we have been playing our role in trying to improve our community and that is never going to stop, whether we get the seat or not,” he said.

He explained that the reason he chose to run on the platform of a new party is because his party does not want people to handcuff their message and vision.

“That is (why) we have set up our own political party. We have set up MDP. It is a new party. It is self-funded because we do not (want) to answer to the powers that be. We just want a seat at the table of governance. We want to bring our own chair so that the only people that we will be answering to, are the people who put us in office – which is the community.

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“And I think that marks a difference between what we are trying to do and what other politicians are doing.”

When asked if he supports state police, he was affirmative. “Absolutely. I think that Nigeria is too big of a country to be policed effectively on federal basis. I think that there are so many issues that are going on in our communities now that I think states should have the ability to run their own police forces.

“I know we have really great police officers but I feel like they are underfunded and not really supported and the bad ones make everyone else look bad. So, I think there is some reform that needs to happen in the police as a whole and I would encourage us to look towards state police.”

While stating that he will publicly declare his assets if voted into office, he said he does not have any political god-father.

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